Another wonderful part of my life is that of an Open Adoption in our family. One of my daughters gave a child up for adoption at birth. She interviewed families and wanted to find a family who shared her desire to have an open adoption,. She felt that it would be better for her daughter if she never had to wonder where she came from, and had open access to her birth family. My daughter decided she would only have contact with the child if it came from the adoptive family, as she was totally aware that the adoptive family is the child's "real" family.
Her desire for an open adoption came true and we have had a great experience with the adoptive family. The adoptive family contacts her once or twice a year - usually on the child's birthday, and maybe in summer. Yesterday we celebrated the daughter's 12th birthday together at a dinner party. The birth mom was there with a son (by the same Father the adoptive daughter is from), the birth mom's husband, both birth grandparents, and of course her adoptive mom, dad, brother and sister.
I never considered this as a blended family until today. I was thinking more about all the step-children and grandchildren in my life, but you know, an open adoption blends yet another two families. It has been a huge blessing. And I am so thankful to be a part of yet another blended family situation.
Does anyone out there want to comment about their open adoption??
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ReplyDeleteMy brother, who lives in Texas, adopeted two children under and "open adoption" status. Interestingly, neither of the birth mothers or fathers have shown any interest in being involved from the beginning.
I am happy to hear your situation is working so well. I have always wondered how I would feel, as an adoptive parent.
Thanks for sharing.
Kim
www.confabulicious.com
I think open adoption is a great idea because its a chance for the birth parents to reunite with their children. It is a great idea to think of it as a blended family. Thanks for sharing your story Mary.
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